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My wife and I celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary today. I guess it might be the standard thing to say we’ve had out ups and downs but really, it’s mostly been up.

It hasn’t been difficult, honestly. I guess technically there have been ups and downs, but they were what life deals you, (health, money, etc.) not marriage problems. In fact if it wasn’t for her, the life issues would have been harder to get through.

What makes a successful marriage? It’s slightly different for most people but I believe the basics are the same. Here is some of the “standard” advice given by the successful married couple, or at least the male half;

• First and foremost, marry your best friend. Remember that question; “Do you forsake all others?” That doesn’t just apply to members of the opposite sex, it applies to everyone. Are you willing to have, if it should work out that way, only your spouse as a friend? Would you stop visiting other friends if you spouse did not aprove?  If you have to think about it for too long or the answer is “no”, than you should find someone you can unequivocally say yes to.

• If you can’t be faithful enough to stay in the relationship, than you shouldn’t get married. What if something were to occur to you or your spouse and sex was no longer part of the equation? Would that be an end to the other part of the vows; “to remain true to him/her as long as you both shall live?” Over the years I’ve seen many couples who for whatever the reason were unable to stay true and it usually had to do with wanting to “get some” from someone other than their spouse.

I have more to share, but that’ll have to wait for another day because at the moment I have some ribs on the smoker for my best friend and I to eat.